Anak2 Adalah Rezeki

Since now is the raining season... we couldn't go out much. My daughter finished her final exams 2 weeks ago and we've been planning to take her to Stam park in BDC for a splish splash but it rained so we have to wait for another weekend.

I don't write much about other things besides the places that we've been to but this time i just feel like sharing something with my readers...


It is natural for women to want to have babies at some point in their lives... except for mayb a few minah psychos yg hati kering xde perasaan yg rasa x nak ada anak or feel like babies are a burdened..(kes buang babies la ni) Cuma timing jer berbeza for each of us... ada yg dapat cepat, ada yg lambat.... and ada jugak yg x de langsung... sebab tu jugak kita selalu kata anak ni rezeki dari Allah... kalau dah rezeki Allah yg bagi so up to Him la to decide nak bagi ker tak... mcm rezeki2 lain jugak...

A while back i watched on u tube satu ceramah yg diberikan oleh Ustaz Kazim Elias... terlupa tajuk ceramahnya... dia ada selitkan satu kisah ni... berlaku pada pasangan yg tidak mempunyai anak selama 12 tahun berkahwin. They've done almost everything they can to try and have a baby tapi mcm yg org slalu cakap xde rezeki.. They never gave up... so finally after 12 years their prayers were answered.. they were pregnant. yahuuu!!! yippiee!!! WAIT! that's not the end yet.... if i'm not mistaken, somewhere towards the end of the second trimester or in the third trimester... lupa sudah... the mother to be fell sick and was hospitalised.... and she was paralyze... kalau x salah neck down... Bila doktor check punya check punya check rupa2nya pompuan ni ada masaalah tulang belakang yg very rare yg akan menyebabkan dia lumpuh kalau dia pregnant... setakat tu lah cerita ustaz Kazim. sedih siott dengar citer ni... meleleh gak air mata

What ustaz Kazim is trying to say is...sometimes what we think is best for us might not be so. Sebenarnya apa2 pun dlm hidup ni kita kena accept apa yg Allah dah tetapkan. Tapi bukan jugak x perlu usaha langsung. Usaha jugak perlu tapi cukup lah sampai had masa tertentu... Kalau sampai certain2 time limit masih jugak x berhasil apa yg kita nak tu  then mayb we have to learn to accept takdir. Cakap memang senang... yes cakap memang senang...tapi itu lah hakikatnya. It takes a very strong person with a strong faith kot to be able to accept takdir yg mcm ni...

Ustaz jugak nak cakap at the same time support system pun kena strong jugak, hubby, families, in laws, ipar duai sume kena la jugak paham n try not to make things harder than it is. Org tu dah la tension n have to deal with her own feelings of dissapointment and frustration, kita pulak duk tambah lagi dgn komen2 atau kata2 yg menambahkan ketensionan org tu. Walaupun kadang2 niat kita nak tolong tapi the outcome or the acceptance   might not be as desired.

Kalau kita ada family yg ada masalah macam ni try not to put more emotional burden. Tak payah la nak compare2 ngan org lain. Tak payah la asyik tanya pasal anak jer everytime anak menantu balik kg. Tak perlu la pin point salah sapa benda2 ni sume jadi...Kalau jadi mcm pompuan dlm citer ustaz tadi, sapa yg nak jaga baby and mak baby tu yg lumpuh...

But this is only my understanding and perception... org lain might have different views. Ya lah... first of all i have been blessed with a daughter n a son...so i can never say i understand how childless couples feel. But the gap between the two of them was 6 yrs... so i kinda know how it felt for 6 yrs trying to have a baby. When most people were asking when are we going to extend our family. The best part is our family, my parents and in laws never asked or questioned us regarding this...not even once... for this i am truely grateful, Alhamdulillah kerana dijodohkan dgn keluarga yg sempoi dan sgt understanding..

Sama sama lah kita belajar menerima takdir dan ketentuan Ilahi dalam apa jua perkara dalam hidup kita... InsyaAllah...kerana sesungguhnya Allah itu maha mengetahui.